As you know I recently became one of the Channel Mum vloggers. I was asked to discuss my thoughts on baby No.2 and when is the right time for another child. My immediate reaction was I havn’t given it much thought but that would actually be a lie…
For as long as I can remember I have wanted to have a 2 year age gap between my children. That’s always been my plan. I had a very structured life plan. Married by 25, First baby by 27, 2nd baby by 29, and so far I’m doing good. I’m ahead of schedule and have already met most of my major life goals 🙂
My brother and I had a two year age gap between us. I had a wonderful childhood with him filled with memories of all the games we’d play together. Of course, we did fight, as all siblings do, but for the most part we got on really well. I want that for my Rosalie.
Then October came upon us. The month that if we did want a two year age gap between our babies that we would need to start trying. If I am honest I didn’t feel ready. Rosalie was 13 months, a baby herself. The thought of having another one, Woah! To go through all that again… Was it really the right time?
Those first few months with a newborn are so all-consuming, intense, and awesome. I don’t think you are ever ready. Just as we are getting things straight a little baby will turn our world upside down again.
I look at my baby. My first born and she is my baby. My first thought when thinking of having another baby was that I might not be able to be the best mum I can with two babies to look after. That Rosalie would some how miss out.I’ve thought about it often and I know she won’t.
I think of the love I had for my brother and I cherish him. Giving Rosalie a sibling is the best gift I can give her. A best friend, someone she can grow old with. Hopefully, they will stay together and be able to look after each other when I inevitably have to leave this world.
If I am honest, I desperately want a boy. To give Rosalie a brother as I had. We shall see. I try to plan and control so many aspects of my life (see afore mentioned life plan). Unfortunately that is something I have absolutely no control over. Fate will decide that one.
So we are trying to have another baby. No, I don’t feel ready, but I am excited. I am excited to start that wonderful journey all over again. Mostly, I am excited to give Rosalie a sibling, the bestest gift of all!
Are you thinking about baby No.2? When do you think is the right time? What’s the age gap between your babies? I’d love to know what you think…
You can take a look at our video for Channel Mum on this subject here.